The bad habit that shrinks your influence


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Sorry, not sorry.

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(Am on the road this week, so am re-sharing an audience favourite)

I'm Canadian, so I'm an expert at apologizing.

And we often think it sounds gracious:
“Sorry to bother you.”
“Sorry to take your time.”

But in meetings, every apology lowers the ceiling for the room.

You've told people this meeting is a burden––and they'll act accordingly.

Instead, frame it as a privilege and a purpose.
“This is the best group to tackle this.”
“I’m energized to dig in together.”
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Energy rises to the story you tell.
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Try this

Try this:​
In your next meeting, replace every “sorry” with an expression of confidence or gratitude.

  • “I’ve been looking forward to this conversation.”
  • “We’re already making progress."
  • “I value the intention everyone’s bringing.”
  • “Thanks — this is meaningful work, and it shows.”

You’ll feel the tone shift immediately.

🌿 Lead with energy, not apology.​

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